“With great PAIN comes great change. If you’re not ready to change, then you’re not in enough pain!” I can’t say who this quote is from because their was no name mentioned underneath it but I found it to be interesting!
In his book, “The Last Arrow” one of my favorite quotes of Erwin McManus is “Passion is about what fuels us, urgency is about how much it matters right now.” These two quotes have so much meaning to me about my journey to change me relationship with food.
First of all, great pain does call for change. Sometimes when you are experiencing pain, you retreat and blame. Other times you feel such an urgency to change that the thought of remaining in pain is unbearable. I was in pain, not just physically but emotionally and spiritual as well, for close to 30 years due to my relationship with food. Through that 30 years, there were many other painful experiences that happened in my life and I handled those experiences through the huge underlining pain of food addiction.
Passion fueled me time and time again to try hundreds of different ways to lose weight or to talk myself into accepting my problem. Passion kept me on a diet for awhile, but it was never enough! Passion kept me on my search for a solution but it wasn’t enough to keep trying until I found it.
On the other hand, urgency to fix this problem of mine, is what ultimately pushed me to the point of no return! I have often said that younger people who suffer from food related obsessions, do not have the same sense of urgency because they think they still have time to find a solution…that a solution will show up in their lives. For me, at the age of 54 and health numbers that would scare anyone, my sense of urgency hit an all time high. I had no more time to wait! I had to fix this and I had to do it now!
My passion to change this wasn’t enough but my urgency to fix this now, was ultimately my way out of pain!